Non-Fiction, Prompt

Share Your World 3-15-2021

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Welcome to Share Your World and Melanie’s Rules! 

QUESTIONS

How well do you know your next-door neighbors?   Do you like them?   (credit to Cyranny for the question) Well here’s the thing. I am crammed into a high rise. There are mere feet between our doors. Some are ok and some “OH MY GOD!” Does that help? One is great and will do anything for me without expecting something in return. The other one expects everything with me and then remembers he needs to be helpful to me so I will continue to do things for him. He does take advantage of me, but I let it go as he does things in return so fair is fair. The other’s I don’t care one way or the other. I am only close to a few people in that 100 apartment high rise.

Do you have a full length mirror?  (credit to Sadje for the rest of the questions) No, I only have a mirror in the bathroom and can barely see in it.

(for the men)  Do you shave every day or do you like the ‘stubble’ look, or a beard?

(for the ladies)   How long do you spend putting on make-up in the morning? I do not wear or own makeup. I am who I am, take me or leave me, doesn’t matter to me and if makeup is that big a deal I don’t need you in my life.

How many items of clothing are in your bedroom (or closet) and not hung up? This pains me, but I am a hoarder and a slob so there are probably about 40 plus items not hung up. And there are way too many for me to wear so I have too many period.

Tessa – 

Advocate for mental health and invisible illnesses

New Author’s Website –http://www.tessadeanauthor.com

Author – Old Writing –  http://www.finallyawriter.com

About my life –  http://www.tessacandoit.com

Author of a published book on the blog, https://tessacandoit.com/government-property-a-memoir-as-a-military-wife/

Highlighted chapters are done and ready to be read.

I am also a youtuber in the authortube section on writing. See my videos here:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSpNS-6gfJ0s8eD1berLwQg

#weeklysmile, Non-Fiction, Prompt

The Weekly Smile for the 15th of March, 2021 #weeklysmile

The Weekly Smile for the 15th of March, 2021 #weeklysmile

My smiles:

Still doing beta reader corrections and rewrites for book 1, have at least half done, but have until May 1 to get it to the editor. I am rewriting certain parts thanks to the beta readers comments.

During the week it was quite warm, low 70’s and so my neighbor washed my car by hand and rubbed it clean with a towel. What we thought were scratches were simply very clingy dirt and it washed off and looks really good for a car that is 15 years old. I have to sell it when I move to assisted living as I can’t pay for the insurance since Medicaid takes my whole disability check to pay for the facility. I get maybe $50 a month for incidentals. So no car. A roommate and no car. Big adjustments so far. Don’t know what else will change for me.

Tessa – 

Advocate for mental health and invisible illnesses

New Author’s Website –http://www.tessadeanauthor.com

Author – Old Writing –  http://www.finallyawriter.com

About my life –  http://www.tessacandoit.com

Author of a book on the blog, https://tessacandoit.com/government-property-a-memoir-as-a-military-wife/

I am also a youtuber in the authortube section on writing. See my videos here:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSpNS-6gfJ0s8eD1berLwQg

#weeklysmile, Non-Fiction, Prompt

The Weekly Smile for the 8th of March, 2021 #weeklysmile

The Weekly Smile for the 8th of March, 2021 #weeklysmile

My smiles:

Still doing beta reader corrections and rewrites for book 1

I now have the plans and covers for 7 novels in my eventual series.

I am now officially on the list for a place in an assisted living facility. Medicaid so won’t be fancy, but I will get the help I need and my kids can stop constantly worrying since I am now living alone.

Tessa – 

Advocate for mental health and invisible illnesses

New Author’s Website –http://www.tessadeanauthor.com

Author – Old Writing –  http://www.finallyawriter.com

About my life –  http://www.tessacandoit.com

Author of a book on the blog, https://tessacandoit.com/government-property-a-memoir-as-a-military-wife/

I am also a youtuber in the authortube section on writing. See my videos here:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSpNS-6gfJ0s8eD1berLwQg

Non-Fiction, Prompt

Reena’s Xploration Challenge #174

Reena’s Xploration Challenge #174

PROMPT #174

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When I first saw the picture I thought of squeezing the brain or shrink as they sometimes call it. The person appears to be wearing a hospital gown so I immediately thought of someone in a mental hospital and having spent two occasions in one myself, I can say it is not a particularly happy memory.

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Tessa – 

Advocate for mental health and invisible illnesses

New Author’s Website –http://www.tessadeanauthor.com

Author – Old Writing –  http://www.finallyawriter.com

About my life –  http://www.tessacandoit.com

Author of a book, a work in progress on the blog, https://tessacandoit.com/government-property-a-memoir-as-a-military-wife/

Highlighted chapters are done and ready to be read.

I am also a youtuber in the authortube section on writing. See my videos here:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSpNS-6gfJ0s8eD1berLwQg

#SoCS, Non-Fiction, Prompt

The Friday Reminder and Prompt for #SoCS Feb. 20, 2021

Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is “nerve.” Use it any way you’d like. Have fun!

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As I was growing up my mom always referred to my anxiety as a case of nerves. She was always giving me nerve medicine to calm down my nerves, etc.

I have also heard it said as you are getting on my last nerve, by someone just before they bashed them over the head or broke their leg, arm, etc.

Right now my nerves are on edge and very raw. I am anxiety-ridden for sure. This damn pandemic is not helping matters any. People who are normally gentle can get a bad case of nerves due to the pandemic.

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Here are the rules for SoCS:

2019-2020 SoCS Badge by Shelley! 

https://www.quaintrevival.com/

Tessa – 

Advocate for mental health and invisible illnesses

New Author’s Website –http://www.tessadeanauthor.com

Author – Old Writing –  http://www.finallyawriter.com

About my life –  http://www.tessacandoit.com

Author of a book, on the blog, https://tessacandoit.com/government-property-a-memoir-as-a-military-wife/

I am also a youtuber in the authortube section on writing. See my videos here:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSpNS-6gfJ0s8eD1berLwQg

#SoCS, Non-Fiction, Prompt

The Friday Reminder and Prompt for #SoCS Feb. 13, 2021

Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is “above/below.” Use one, use both, use ’em however they inspire you. Bonus points if you use them both. Enjoy!

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Split Level

Non-Fiction by Tessa Dean February 2021

I was getting a little bit tired of looking at houses. We had our house on the market finally. It took a while to convince my husband that we should move. He loved our house mainly because it was on a lake and he could launch his boat or canoe anytime and fish. I hate all the woods surrounding us and although the water was pretty we had young children to keep an eye on, not to mention their friends safety to think about.

So we were looking for a house with a basement since we didn’t have one and I would have preferred a split-level house since it was both above and below ground. The best of both worlds I thought.

The last house of the night turned out to be a split level which was a nice house, in a a nice neighborhood. So we were going to try for it and put down a deposit. However the contingency was if we sold our house. So the realtor got back to us and said she was sorry, but they had another buyer who was able to move right in so they were going with them. We got the deposit back and I told my husband we might as well stop looking. So many houses and nobody wanted to wait until we sold ours. So I resigned myself to living there, but we did upgrade the house by adding a family room downstairs and a large master bedroom upstairs. The new room upstairs was a dormer so it wasn’t quite the full length of the house, but close. It was large enough for me to create a small office on one end of the room and we put in a huge window since it overlooked the lake. Beautiful view I have to admit.

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Here are the rules for SoCS:

2019-2020 SoCS Badge by Shelley! 

https://www.quaintrevival.com/

Tessa – 

Advocate for mental health and invisible illnesses

New Author’s Website –http://www.tessadeanauthor.com

Author – Old Writing –  http://www.finallyawriter.com

About my life –  http://www.tessacandoit.com

Author of a book, on the blog, https://tessacandoit.com/government-property-a-memoir-as-a-military-wife/

I am also a youtuber in the authortube section on writing. See my videos here:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSpNS-6gfJ0s8eD1berLwQg

#1linerWeds, Non-Fiction, Prompt

One-Liner Wednesday – Drive Slowly

One-Liner Wednesday – Drive Slowly

Badge by Laura @ riddlefromthemiddle.com

I had an appointment at the drive-through brain scraping for my Covid Test for my hospital procedure and there was a person leaving and none in line, but I was early, what to do I think, so I pulled up and said I’m early and they said no problem. Not like they were fighting to keep the line moving.

Tessa – 

Advocate for mental health and invisible illnesses

New Author’s Website –http://www.tessadeanauthor.com

Author – Old Writing –  http://www.finallyawriter.com

About my life –  http://www.tessacandoit.com

Author of a book, on the blog, https://tessacandoit.com/government-property-a-memoir-as-a-military-wife/

Highlighted chapters are done and ready to be read.

I am also a youtuber in the authortube section on writing. See my videos here:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSpNS-6gfJ0s8eD1berLwQg

Non-Fiction, Prompt

SHARE YOUR WORLD 2-8-2021

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Welcome to Share Your World and Melanie’s Rules!  

QUESTIONS

In your opinion, do May/December (older partner with much younger partner) romances ever work? I think they can work sometimes. An older male and a younger female aren’t so bad, but I tried it with a younger male. I was 50 and he was 24. I found it awkward in several ways. I prefer older men, preferably at least 10 years old than me.

What physical action or gesture do you find romantic? Kissing and holding hands.

What is your idea of a romantic dinner? Seafood since it was always a special meal. Now I have a neighbor who makes me a shrimp dinner at least once or twice a month and we aren’t in a relationship other than friends.

Is ‘love’ a real ‘thing’ or merely a physical chemical response and brain activity pulling our emotional strings? I honestly don’t know because I fall in love after meeting someone for five minutes sometimes. I don’t know them I just fall in love and fantasize about our relationship that is in my mind completely. And I certainly was NOT in love or even felt love for my husband. He’s been gone for 21 years now and he is miserable with his girlfriend and I am poor, but happier. Go figure.

Tessa – 

Advocate for mental health and invisible illnesses

New Author’s Website –http://www.tessadeanauthor.com

Author – Old Writing –  http://www.finallyawriter.com

About my life –  http://www.tessacandoit.com

Author of a published book on the blog, https://tessacandoit.com/government-property-a-memoir-as-a-military-wife/

Highlighted chapters are done and ready to be read.

I am also a youtuber in the authortube section on writing. See my videos here:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSpNS-6gfJ0s8eD1berLwQg

Book, Memoir, Non-Fiction

The first part of my memoir is now complete

I have now completed the first part of my memoir. There are 9 chapters. Click here or on the page above that says books for the link to read it.

Tessa – 

Advocate for mental health and invisible illnesses

New Author’s Website –http://www.tessadeanauthor.com

Author – Old Writing –  http://www.finallyawriter.com

About my life –  http://www.tessacandoit.com

Author of a book, a work in progress on the blog, https://tessacandoit.com/government-property-a-memoir-as-a-military-wife/

Highlighted chapters are done and ready to be read.

I am also a youtuber in the authortube section on writing. See my videos here:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSpNS-6gfJ0s8eD1berLwQg

Book, Memoir, Non-Fiction

Here is the final chapter in my memoir “Government Property – A Memoir of a Military Wife”

Click here to read the entire memoir. This is the last chapter.

Chapter Nine

Time to Re-enlist?

We had about one year left of his current enlistment. His four years were almost up. He had a year and a half left of reserve duty as well. He had to decide whether to re-enlist or get out and just live out the time left in his reserve status and hope he didn’t get called back into full duty.

We were trying to decide if we wanted to have another baby. We needed to do this before his time ran out, or he had to re-enlist. It was getting close. We required over nine months to have a baby and make sure everything was okay for travel with a newborn. So, we had a few months to try, and then time runs out. Do we re-enlist or not?

At that time, the Iran Hostages were a big issue. Our decision depended on who would become president of the United States and perhaps land us in a war. Neither of us wanted him to be sent overseas during active wartime.

Time passed, and I didn’t get pregnant. The only way to do it, so we had the baby in the military, was re-enlisting. We continued to weigh the issues. They were starting preparations for going overseas to the war zone. The wives were all being issued power of attorney since their husbands were going abroad. No one was exempt. The whole unit was going.

We decided not to re-enlist and quit trying to have another baby. He put in his request to get out in December 1980. His enlistment date was December 26, so we figured that would be his separation date in 1980. Our best friends were also getting out that very same December, but they had a separation date before us. It was quite a surprise when they told us Andy’s separation date would be December 8, 1980. Due to the holidays, the people who were not re-enlisting got earlier separation dates. Now we were getting out before Charlie and Kim were.

We prayed they didn’t rescind his separation date and make him stay and go overseas after all. The closer time came, and they were starting the procedures to send the unit abroad, the more we worried about this happening.

We started packing. Slowly packing things we wouldn’t need daily at first, and then more and more of our belongings. We had to decide whether to move with a U-Haul or have the military pack us up and move us. 

One thing we couldn’t get out of was the military inspection of our quarters. We had to pass it, or we weren’t going anywhere. We did a cleaning, but with the threat above our heads about what would happen if we failed that cleaning inspection, we finally decided to hire a cleaning service that would clean and stand that inspection for us. That meant getting out of our housing unit early. We had to stay with someone or at a motel for a couple of days. They would clean, and per the contract, they would stand the inspection.

We decided to go with the U-Haul option. He would drive the U-Haul, and he would have the two dogs. I would drive our car with the children and our cat, who needed a cat box available.

We made arrangements with one of our neighbors on the court to spend a night or two there until we could leave on our separation date. They took us, our children, and our pets in, thankfully. A motel would have been more difficult.

We packed the last of the boxes in the U-Haul and moved down the street for the night. The next morning, we went to leave. Our neighbors had gathered around to say goodbye, and we started to load the vehicles with children and animals. The cat escaped us and took off. We looked for him everywhere. By now,  I was in tears. We had to go, and the cat was nowhere in sight.

My next-door neighbor promised to keep an eye out for him, and if she found him, she would keep him. It was all I could expect. It was better than nothing.

Still crying, I got the kids buckled into the car. Andy got the dogs in the truck, and he proceeded to leave the court, which led to the highway. I was following him. We had to go out to the road and then turn right to the turnaround to get to the other side.

We drove down the highway. We turned around and headed back when my neighbor Caroline came running across the highway to the median. She had the cat in her hands. We stopped on the road, and I got out and got my cat, thanking her profusely.

Now we could go. We had about a 10-hour trip, not counting stopping for food and bathroom breaks. Andy didn’t have a radio, so he was traveling with just the dogs for company. I had the radio on, and just before we got home, they announced John Lennon’s death on December 8, 1980. I started to cry, and when we stopped for a bathroom break, I got out crying. Andy asked me what was wrong, and I told him. He wasn’t as upset about it as I was, of course. I was the Beatles fan, not him. Plus, I was the emotional one. Things like that didn’t bother him.

We got back into the vehicles and finished the last leg of our trip, and eventually arrived at his mother’s house. We had made arrangements with another friend in New Jersey to store our belongings until we could find our own home. We could stay with his mother, but our belongings couldn’t. She didn’t have the room to store them, although there was a lot less than we would have had if we didn’t use some of the furniture supplied by the base. The truck had to be emptied at his friend’s house and then returned to UHaul.

We were now civilians again. Our lives were about to change. Military and civilian life was different.